A Bdsm Relationship – How to Have Your Own Spice!
The art of BDSM is not new. In fact, it is becoming more accepted in mainstream society every day. But the rise of the Internet and the explosive growth of BDSM-themed media, such as the Fifty Shades of Grey books and movies, has also brought BDSM into the forefront of public awareness, made it more socially acceptable, and enabled those interested in it to more easily connect with each other. This is why you are seeing so many Bali expat couples in the online adult dating sites.
But even here in Singapore, you will find many Bali expats who are still practicing their BDSM lifestyles. They may belong to the local or the international bdsm community – there is no one monolithic group. What this means for those exploring the possibility of forming a bdsm relationship with someone from Singapore, is that they will need to meet in person, perhaps meet via an internet dating site, before they are made aware of the actual practice. While this is perfectly common in the West where such relations have been commonplace for decades, there is certainly a stigma attached here in Singapore. It would be a real estate concern if you were looking at establishing an actual bdsm community here.
Of course, there is no rule against meeting someone in a public place like a supermarket or a club, especially if both people speak English. However, in the case of singles who wish to establish a bdsm community here in Singapore, meeting in a public place is no longer a safe bet. It might make you feel safe, but you never know who you’re dealing with. You also have to worry about being vulnerable and exposed to unscrupulous men (who, in reality, do no harm) lurking behind a coffee shop counter.
So what can you do? For those who want to engage in mature, meaningful and fulfilling bdsm relationships here in Singapore, the answer might be as simple as checking out the local adult video shops. Yes, these shops are more cosmopolitan than your average kinky porno bar, but they are still a very valid and accessible resource. If nothing else, visiting some of these places will show you how Singaporeans actually like to have fun. While they may not offer the deep, dark satisfaction of visiting a dirty motel room, they are a great source for learning about people’s attitudes towards sex and their desire to form adult bdsm relationships.
If you prefer meeting in chat rooms or internet hangouts rather than club bouncers, then there are other venues for you to explore. Singaporean singles can also do some soul searching by going out for dinner and a movie with their friends. While this is not technically a bdsm relationship per se, it is a great way for people to get to know one another in a non-judgmental, non-physical environment.
Another place that is great for learning about other people’s interests and bdsm relationships is the local Chinese restaurant. While it is impossible to take a relationship between two Chinese people down to the tee, at least you can eat together. You can also watch movies together. While you should never assume anything, the Chinese restaurant might just be the perfect venue for a first date!
Of course, one of the most popular bdsm sites on the internet is red hot dating portals. They host online chat rooms where people can talk about anything under the sun. It is a great way to see if someone shares your interests or if you can find common ground before moving in together. Some sites even offer a “sugar daddy” forum where men can approach women and ask her out on dates.
These are just a few of the ideas for a bdsm relationship. There are no rules, and the possibilities are endless. If you think you and your partner might be ready for something outside of the traditional confines of a relationship, then make it happen. The sky is the limit! Find your niche and go for it!